In this way, love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment, because in this world we are like him. There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.–1 John 4:17-18
Today, I’d like to tell you a bit about my wonderful wife. As I write these words, I am celebrating my twenty-sixth anniversary of marriage to Penny. It’s far more than half of our lives that we’ve spent together now, as we were both still in our teens on May 28, 1982. And how are we marking this occasion? A cruise? A candlelit dinner? No. Penny is painting in the basement, and I am taking three kids to some event at Crown Center. Hopeless romantics, aren’t we?
In reality, though, we are romantics. We understand each other and our needs. Perhaps more importantly, our love is perfected, completed, made whole in each other. I am not concerned about not taking Penny to Paris for this auspicious day. I’m not concerned because I know that even when I mess up in our relationship, our love will endure. Had I not bought her a card yesterday and written a cheesy poem in it, all would still be well. Had she not bought one of those singing cards and stuck it into my closed laptop computer, my love would still be as great. We don’t have to worry about the other falling out of love.
What love is better than the love Penny and I share? Only the love that brought her into my life some twenty-eight years ago. When we are love-less, our hearts are questing, searching, but when we find enduring love, our hearts settle and cease to worry.
I praise God for the earthly love that he gave to me in my wife, but I praise him even more for the perfect, completing love that gives me the confidence to face each day.